It's simple to just lay down and make alot of noise and heat come from your mouth but real love making happens when you love yourself and that person. The act itself is beautiful in it's own right!!! We should take that term "love making" to another level. Be open with your lover about what you like and don't like. If you don't know your body how can you expect some one else to? That's not realistic! Embrace love and love making should come easily.